Before social media – the Tinders, Facebooks and maybe badoos of this world- the way dating and marriages were done was different.
You had fewer options- maybe Kemi at your Church, Funbi at your place of work, another girl and of course your parents match making skills
Because they were fewer, you weren’t so selective.
Now with social media, you have this large pool of ladies at your disposal. Your options are limitless,
Isn’t this supposed to mean that it should be easier for us to find a significant other?
False.It’s getting harder.
A writer took a deeper look at it and it gave us insights into reasons why
He made reference to his father who was matched with his wife by his parents. His father chose his mother in a shorter time than it took for him to choose where to have lunch.
I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. The first girl, he said, was “a little too tall,” and the second girl was “a little too short.” Then he met my mom. He quickly deduced that she was the appropriate height (finally!), and they talked for about 30 minutes. They decided it would work. A week later, they were married.And they still are, 35 years later. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.
But the case is different now-
With a simple download of Tinder you have access to thousands of girls. You want a tall, fair slim girl from Imo State who is a graduate with long hair. Check
You want a Yoruba girl? Check
But why does this make it more difficult than easy?
You can read this writer’s take here