Every man wants a woman he can be proud of and with whom he can enjoy life with. Men have preferences and are very selective whenever they are making their choice on who to marry. Some would go for physical features, potentials, maturity, financial prowess or a combination of these. On the contrary, some are constrained in their preference to exclude highly educated or rich ladies from their search. Why?
Why is these an issue? A lady asked me in dismay? I thought within myself what the answers could be. I can only conclude that these men that are afraid of marrying these ladies are myopic in their view. Will you say your daughter or sister should not further her education or rise to the peak of her career if she wants for fear of being ostracized in the society? I’m not using this article to laud women but to open the eyes of some men. Isn’t it a pride for you if your wife happens to be the CEO of a renowned bank or company?
Men, there is a way you can treat ‘your’ woman that will make her blossom. After I made my observations about the reasons why some men do not want to marry the women that are better than them, I discovered the followings as their problem.
One personality disorder that most people suffer is low self esteem, hence, men are not exempted from this. Low self esteem is rating yourself so low while comparing yourself with another person. If some men could be wise to know what a woman wants, you will not allow self esteem issue to belittle your real worth. Marriage is not about comparison. If it were to be, everybody will be looking out for their mate (with the same IQ, temperament, maturity or understanding) to marry. Men needs to change their perception about this kind of ladies if love is the drive for the relationship.
LACK OF UNDERSTANDING
When a thing is under-studied, it will be very difficult to handle it properly. One thing that has been discovered is that men in this category lack the understanding of how to deal with these kind of ladies. Apart from the fact that some of them could be disrespectful or proud, women can easily be handled if you deal with them in knowledge. What makes a man a player? His ability to deceitfully play with the life of a woman. But if a woman is well studied and understood properly, there is a way to love her and she will worship you irrespective of her achievements or status.
A key factor that prevents men from marrying educated/rich ladies is fear. How will I cope with her? How can I fit into her life and status? Many ‘how’ are the questions most men ask themselves. If your main reason for marrying her is ‘love’, I mean true love; not for her money or status, I see no reason why you should be afraid of asking her hand in marriage. A lot of men are afraid because they felt they will be too expensive to manage. Money does not make a good marriage but genuine love and a handful of money.
There are some things that lack an element of truth which most people do accept as true. Of such is that wealthy or educated ladies cannot make a good wife or better mothers. Men are the carrier of this belief, hence it is untrue. When a woman makes up her mind to be good, nothing can change that decision except she is treated harshly. Do not join the society to spread this unbiased belief about women.
One thing I have realized is that God made a woman’s affection to be directed towards a man. Hence it is understanding that will make a man identify what his wife needs. However, it is how knowledgeable a man is that will determine how he lives with her. Men needs to change their perception about the status of the woman they want to marry. If genuine love is the drive for the relationship, there’s a way you can live with her that will make her respect you. However, some women lacks respect and are proud when they have more.
DO NOT BE AFRAID
If an educated/richer woman what comes your way, do not allow fear, societal belief, low self esteem or lack of understanding make you to loose her. Genuine love and patience is the secret to a woman’s heart. Give her these and she will naturally respect and forever submit to your lordship regardless of her status. But be ready to treat her right. Moreover, you two must be meant for each other. You cannot expect a woman that does not love you or pretends to love you to make a good wife even if she’s educated/rich. Awake the man in you. Don’t be intimidated.
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